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Move Toward the Mess

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We all were a mess, are a mess, or we are all one dumb decision away from making a mess. So instead of throwing stones of judgement, instead of trying to clean up the mess of others, and instead of sitting on the sidelines, we should move toward the mess. As Christ-followers we are not called to play it safe. If following Jesus is boring for you then I am not sure who you are following. This isn’t a call to move toward every mess. We can’t help everyone. However, each of us can help someone. We can do for one what we wish we could do for many.

This Sunday at oneChurch.tv we wrap up our Address the Mess series with an important talk about how to put feet to our faith and get busy serving others.

Join us at 9am or 10:30am at the Regal Great Escape Theaters in Clarksville, TN or watch online at:

http://www.onechurchmedia.tv/

http://onechurch.churchonline.org/

Warrior Weekend 2017

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The concept of “suck it up and drive on” is instilled in most servicemen and women  early on in their training. While this mindset is often attached to physical strength versus weakness, research shows that many soldiers also apply this mindset to their emotions. Thus, the same mentality that helps warriors accomplish difficult missions may also end up hurting them in the long run, especially once they leave the battlefield. One could argue that the biggest barrier for combat veterans who are seeking help in the aftermath of combat is a mindset that ostracizes the hurting, demonizes the vulnerable, and applauds false motivation.

This is where we help.

This Friday we kick off our 17th Warrior Weekend! Over to 125 people from the Fort Campbell Community representing a variety of units will gather for a FREE weekend of relaxation, development, and connection. It is truly an honor to give back to those who give so much to us!

What is Warrior Weekend?

Warrior Weekend is a 2.5 day getaway for soldiers and their families. Not only do we provide a free weekend of relaxation, activities, and quality childcare, we also provide some essential tools that will help both down range and on the home front. For more information or to register for future retreats, check out restoringthewarriorsheart.com

Don’t Add Water to the Flood

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Have you ever made a mess messier? What is one thing in your life, large or small, you wish there was a quick fix for?

When we are underwater financially, relationally, academically, or professionally, there will always be some bad options. These options present themselves as quick fixes, but in the end they make things worse. They mess the mess up! When the proverbial feces hits the fan in our lives we have two choices: we can make the mess messier or we can chose to do the right thing.

This Sunday at oneChurch.tv we continue our Address the Mess series with an important talk about how to avoid making our mess messier.

Join us at 9am or 10:30am at the Regal Great Escape Theaters in Clarksville, TN or watch online at:

http://www.onechurchmedia.tv/

http://onechurch.churchonline.org/

Fix Your Thoughts

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Before you post it, spread it, speak on it, or dwell on it, ask yourself these questions:

Is it true?

Is it honorable?

Is it right?

Is it pure?

Is it worth looking at and aspiring to?

If not, move on and practice this:

“And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me—everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you.” – The Apostle Paul

 

 

You Don’t Really Love Sinners (Remix)

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“Brother, we’ve got to hate the sin but love the sinner.”

I don’t know how many times I have heard that statement uttered in church. What I do know is that I am sick of it for several reasons:

1. The statement is never applied to the church bucket-mouth (gossip), glutton, closet-bigot, tight-wad, or trouble maker. In my experience, we almost always use this statement when we are talking about gays or Hollywood or whatever people group we happen to be disagreeing with this week.

2. Most of the people that I have heard use that statement are not friends with ANY non-Christians. All of their friends attend church. Jesus was a friend of sinners. All of your friends are church folks. See the problem?

3. How can you love someone that you are not in a relationship with? Please don’t try to sell me the “I love everybody” line. Your theological, political, and sports ramblings betray you. I’m not buying it.

4. I think we are in love with the idea of loving sinners. However, many of us are not willing to deal with the relational complexities involved in true love. Real love is messy. Godly love is patient. Love hurts AND heals.

So, on this, the day of love, let’s stop the feel-good cliches and start building the real relational bridges that lead to life change.

Find an unlovable person and love them as God in Christ loves you.

Choose Hope

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Several years ago my wife and I found ourselves crushed under the weight of other people’s problems. However, the crushing pressure did not come from an increase in ministry drama. The pressure came from our own habit of negativity. We found ourselves constantly looking at and talking about the bad things and slowly but surely hope was swallowed up by stress. An old preacher once said:

“When you have a negative spirit, every comment is a criticism, every rule is oppressive, and every no is taken as a hatred of your happiness.”

So, we decided to always follow up a criticism with a positive. We decided to fight for the bright side. We decided to start looking for the good, to assume the best, and to focus on hope instead of despair.

The result? FREEDOM.

I believe that constant negativity is a horrible cancer that crushes dreams, stifles creativity, and slows down forward momentum. I don’t know about you, but I want to be on guard against the burden of negativity. Guard your heart from the burden of other people’s problems by staying away from negativity. This doesn’t mean that you don’t help people. This doesn’t mean that we don’t bear one another’s burdens. It means that we choose hope over despair.

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23

Accepting But Expecting

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I LOVE our church! We are far from perfect but I believe there are a couple of things that we do really well. One of those things involves creating environments were it is okay to NOT be okay. Whether its Sunday morning, in a community group, or in our student ministry, we embrace the mess that is following Jesus. In fact, at oneChurch.tv we believe 3 things:

Everyone is welcome.

Nobody’s perfect.

Anything is possible.

Yes, God loves us just the way we are. However, He loves us too much to leave us that way! To put it another way, everyone is accepted, but everyone is expected to change, because growing people change.

This Sunday we continue our Address the Mess series with an important talk about how God addresses our mess from the inside out, which produces life-change.

Join us at 9am or 10:30am at the Regal Great Escape Theaters in Clarksville, TN or watch online at:

http://www.onechurchmedia.tv/

http://onechurch.churchonline.org/

 

Lead Yourself Too

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Gary Vaynerchuk does not claim to be a religious or Christian leader at all. In fact, a lot of his videos and concepts would make the average church-goer blush. However, as a Christian leader,  the more I study leadership, motivation, and organizational theory the more I respect his approach to leadership, motivation, and organizational theory.

Last week I watched one of his videos where he let out a verbal assault on the concept of needing a mentor. Here’s what he said (censored version):

“No, I cannot be your mentor…I don’t have time to be your mentor. I’m actually mentoring you now because it’s all free….you don’t need to pay me or pay someone else to be your mentor. You need to face the fact that it takes work. You’re looking for mentors and books and all of this other stuff because you don’t want to put in the work. You know what it takes….You know what it takes to get what you want. We lack the work ethic to do what it takes…”

Deep within his F-bomb laced rant is a serious leadership principle:

The best leaders are first and foremost self-leaders.

Self-leadership is so important that leadership expert John Maxwell said, “One’s success in leading up, down, or from the middle of an organization hinges on their ability to self-manage.” This means that before you learn how to direct others, you should be well versed in how to manage your own emotions, time, energy, thoughts, and personal life. This is more than just learning how to prioritize the various issues that a leader must juggle. This is about truly practicing what is preached in order to lead others into their full potential. The world does not need more leaders who just look the part. The world does not need more people selling us something that they have never experienced. I believe in the power of mentoring, but not at the expense of self-leadership. The mentor/mentee relationship is a two-way street.

I’ll be your mentor…if you are willing to do the hard work of self-leadership.

Be. Do. Push.

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“If you look for an excuse you will find it every time.”

I probably say that line at least 3 times a week. I say it in counseling sessions with people walking through various issues in life. I say it to unmotivated undergraduate students who are taking a second swing at the college thing. I say it to motivated graduate students who feel like giving up. I say it to know-it-all jiu jitsu students who refuse to let go of ego and humbly embrace the mental beatdown that is the martial arts. I say it in meetings where it is evident that we are dancing around the issues.

I say it to myself when laziness, people-pleasing, and comfort try to ambush excellence, discipline, and hustle.

If you look for an excuse you will find it every time. Instead of looking for excuses –

Be a leader. Be part of the solution. Be the best you…right now.

Do the hard work first. Do the right thing. Do…something, anything, other than blaming others for your situation.

Push.

Persevere.

Pray….

Until something happens.